This is the fun question that was asked of me at a humanities final. What interests me about it within the context of this website is: Does the abuser/controller know who he/she is? From here on I will use “he” to indicate the abuser/controller because, unfortunately, most abusers are male.
We are not blank slates when [...]
Reports say that Mark Obama Ndesandjo’s new novel is based on his experiences of childhood abuse by his biological father, who also happens to be Barack Obama’s biological father. Admittedly, he may also be cashing in on the celebrity of his brother, but that doesn’t mean that his story is not sincere. I am more [...]
discernomatic
Enc 1102
October 1, 2009
Amanda of The Glass Menagerie is Controlling
Tennessee Williams’ play, The Glass Menagerie, is not simply a window into a small family trying to make ends meet during the depression. I believe that Tennessee Williams intended, among other things, to shed light on the dynamics and some possible consequences of controlling relationships. An [...]
After having reviewed the book, Domestic Violence: What Every Pastor Needs to Know, on a previous blog entry, I would like to add my own account of how pastors dealt with me when I tried to get help as a victim of domestic violence.
At the time I was going to two churches. I attended the [...]
Set boundaries in your life to avoid being bullied or taken advantage of by others.
A boundary is a line or limit that establishes or marks your personal territory - yourself.
This territory includes your body, mind, spirit, emotions, opinions, possessions and rights. In order to defend yourself you decide who enters that territory or any [...]
I couldn’t miss getting into this hullaballoo concerning Letterman’s recent comments concerning Sarah Palin’s daughter Willow, who is the same age as my daughter, 14 years old.
Here is a little background at MSNBC. I recommend looking at their video of the interview with Sarah Palin where she does bring up some food for thought [...]
No good tree bears bad fruit,
nor does a bad tree bear good fruit.
Each tree is recognized by its own fruit.
People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briars.
The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart,
and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored [...]
Verbal abuse is abuse just as much as physical abuse is. The psychological effects are the same.
A summary of Patricia Evans’ categories of verbal abuse from her book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to recognize it and how to respond. A few of the phrases have been added from my experience with verbal abuse as [...]
My Sensei made a comparison today that gave me a new perspective on controllers, the controlled and another category of people that are neither.
I agree with him that most people are sheep - they are used to following. I am still often in that mode of thought. Of course there are more than a few [...]
By discernomatic, Nikki Eldridge, Felicia Harris, Anonymous Writer
For Katherine Urquhart
DEP 2004, Psychology of Human Development
Lake Sumter Community College
April 15, 2009
Introduction
For the sake of the current argument, domestic violence “commonly refers to a pattern of assaultive and coercive behaviors that adults use against their intimate partners,” (Holden, 2003, p.155). Domestic violence includes physical, sexual, and psychological [...]
