This is the fun question that was asked of me at a humanities final. What interests me about it within the context of this website is: Does the abuser/controller know who he/she is? From here on I will use “he” to indicate the abuser/controller because, unfortunately, most abusers are male.
We are not blank slates when [...]
After having reviewed the book, Domestic Violence: What Every Pastor Needs to Know, on a previous blog entry, I would like to add my own account of how pastors dealt with me when I tried to get help as a victim of domestic violence.
At the time I was going to two churches. I attended the [...]
Set boundaries in your life to avoid being bullied or taken advantage of by others.
A boundary is a line or limit that establishes or marks your personal territory - yourself.
This territory includes your body, mind, spirit, emotions, opinions, possessions and rights. In order to defend yourself you decide who enters that territory or any [...]
It seems to me like Obama and his cohorts are using Diaprax (another word for Hegelian Dialectic) to change the inner machinery of America. If you remember from a previous blog, diaprax is a method of ideologically leading someone where you want them to go using small steps to convince them. If they would know [...]
Among other things, the results of 158 interviews with Catholic and Protestant clergy as well as interviews with victims, batterers and specialists in the domestic violence field are contained in the book. The author, Reverend Al Miles, is astonished at how many pastors are unwilling or do not really know how to deal with domestic [...]
No good tree bears bad fruit,
nor does a bad tree bear good fruit.
Each tree is recognized by its own fruit.
People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briars.
The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart,
and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored [...]
Verbal abuse is abuse just as much as physical abuse is. The psychological effects are the same.
A summary of Patricia Evans’ categories of verbal abuse from her book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to recognize it and how to respond. A few of the phrases have been added from my experience with verbal abuse as [...]
The last presidential election seemed to me to be filled with much more hot air than usual. The emotional highs that many had when within the presence of one particular candidate were not driven by discernment but by a lack of it. I think that during the preliminaries to the election many voters were lulled [...]
